How to persevere

How to persevere even when you want to give up.

Have you ever been in a situation where you wished that you could press a magic button and be somewhere else entirely?  Of course, you have. We have all been there and some people more often than others.  It could be as common as being forced to attend a boring meeting that is soul draining. Or more extreme like the soldiers that find them in life threatening situations.  

Now I am going to share a little secret that was revealed to me a few years ago by a man who I deeply respect. And the only person I trust with my life, my brother.  At the time this conversation took place he and his wife just had a baby boy. And my brother was just starting his own electronic business.  Things were tight financially since the baby had to go to the doctor almost every week for a year.

This drained most of his cash flow since his medical aid did not cover that many visits. Also, on top of that, he had to work 14 hour days to make his business a success. So, to put it mildly, he had a lot of stress, the stress of being worried about the health of his child and the stress of making his business a success to support his family.

One day I visited him at his office just after he negotiated a big deal and he was as busy as a beaver. I asked him “Brother how do you handle all this stress and responsibilities?  What he said next stuck with me and have helped me through many tough situations.  He calmly looked me in the eye and said:

“You just handle it.”

The simplicity of the words hid the true significance of the sentence. And it can easily be overlooked by someone that wants a quick fix. There were no five steps to handle stress or a guide on how to meditate. These are all solutions to people that don’t have their back against the wall. It was plain, straightforward and to the point.

You handle difficult or unpleasant situations by manning up and pushing through.

This is what our grandfathers did in WW2. This is what doctors in the ER do every day.  Single moms do this that have to work two jobs to be able to feed and clothe her children. They just handle whatever comes their way and push on.  When there is no option but to succeed you will find the way to achieve success, or you will perish in the attempt.

I have used this principle to handle situations of various difficulties ranging from ordinary discomforts like sitting in traffic to potentially very dangerous scenarios like when I travelled to the DRC by car.  So how can you use the advice of my brother to handle any difficult situation?

  • Have a strong vision or goal.

When you have a strong sense of purpose, no situation will be too demanding to overcome. If you have desired and envisioned the end result, you will push through regardless the difficulty, irritation or boredom the task presents.

  • This too will pass.

Know that every situation you experience on this earth will eventually pass, no matter how bad or hard it may be. Even if it takes your death to bring it about. There is a rhythm to life and all its experiences, an inflow and an outflow. That is why it is so important to enjoy the good times and don’t worry too much about the bad times.

  • Have family.

To be able to handle unpleasant, tedious and even dangerous situations like a trooper there is nothing that motivates you like family. Never underestimate the importance of family.  And I am not only talking about your blood family since some people are on very bad terms with their family or are orphans.  Family, in my opinion, is the people you care for and that supports you in your goal to become successful.  You will never be successful until your life changes from only serving yourself to that of serving your family.

I will leave you with this quote:

When you get into a tight place, and everything goes against you till it seems as if you could not hold on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”

HARRIET BEECHER STOWE

Yours in Health and Prosperity.

Edward Krüger

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